Couple Counselling
When we start a relationship there is usually a hope and expectation that it will last.
However, for any number (or combination) of factors there can be difficulties in a relationship including but not limited to;
- Different expectations of the parties to the relationship;
- Difficulties with work-life balance for one or both parties;
- Problems around fidelity or infidelity;
- Difficulties related to one or both families of origin;
- “Leftover” stuff from one or more previous relationships;
- Different views or beliefs about child-rearing;
- Not “making time” for couple things;
- Mental Health issues impacting one or both halves of the couple and/or the couple itself;
- Difficulties dealing with the “inevitable” crises of life;
- Domestic Violence and or Power and Control issues;
- The impacts of having (or not having) children;
- With children from previous relationships, there may be “blended family” issues.
For same-sex couples there can be additional pressures, like;
- Differences in where both parties are in the “coming out” process;
- Dealing with internalised homophobia impacting on the relationship;
- Families of origin unwilling to accept there is an LGBTI branch on the family tree;
- Religious or cultural issues around homosexuality;
- Experiences with discrimination or less than equal treatment.
So how can talking with an independent professional help?
- Being an independent professional, they may be able to potentially help you “See the wood for the trees”;
- Potentially suggest tasks or “homework” like books to read, or movies to watch, to seek to help deal with some of the presenting issues;
- Be a “sounding board” for some of the concerns or issues;
It should be noted that, like any other psychological assistance, there can be no “Guarantee” that what is attempted, will save the relationship. But it is certainly better to try, than not and the sooner assistance is sought the better. In addition, it should be remembered that in couple counselling “the couple” is the client, rather than the psychologist or counsellor “taking sides” with one or the other partner.
Also, it should be noted that, unlike other issues you may be seeing a psychologist for, Couple counselling is not covered by Medicare. Although it may be covered by private health insurance. You should check with your health fund, taking into consideration your particular “plan” and any limitations.